"Lift" One Another in our Divine Roles

Let’s talk about how important it is that we lift one another. Now, you’re all probably thinking I mean lifting one another figuratively, or spiritually. But no.

Daniel Fisher and Kami Orr

Being the ballroom dancer that I am, I’m going to speak to you about actually physically lifting someone. As a ballroom dancer, I have practiced a dance style called “Cabaret.” In this style, there is a partnership, or sometimes a team of partners, performing various lifts and drops throughout the dance. These lifts are not just a few inches from the ground, but all the way above the head: higher than one would think possible. There is a process and rules that help the dancers performing the lifts to have the most impact and to ensure the safety of all of the dancers.

When someone is lifted, they are taken from a lower to a higher place.

There are both physical and spiritual lifts; the principles for a physical lift also have a spiritual application. When applied, we, too, can lift others and help them rise higher than we first thought possible.

Cabaret lift rules and spiritual applications:

1. We must have someone to lift.

Though we may try, we can not lift ourselves.

When the Lord completed His creation of Adam, Heavenly Father told Him, “… it is not good that the man should be alone, therefore we shall form an help meet for him” (Abraham 5:14). For now, let’s focus on the first half of that statement and add a couple of words: “It is not good that the man (or woman) should be alone.” Diving into this subject, I was interested to see what happens to people who are left alone for long periods of time. In a study of prisoners put in solitary confinement for days, weeks, months or even decades of their lives, Dr. Stuart Grassain found that “these people were very sick.” Those with whom he spoke exhibited symptoms such as “hallucinatory tendencies, paranoia, delirium, hypersensitivity to noise and touch, insomnia, PTSD, and uncontrollable feelings of rage or fear.”

It’s amazing that in a world of 7.6 billion people, we can still feel so alone. We all feel it at times. How can we avoid it? We need to be wise about whom and what we surround ourselves with. Be picky about your friends. Well-known actor, Robin Williams, once said, “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone, it’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.” Being accepted by the world will never make you feel lifted.

Russell M. Nelson said, “if you are sometimes called ‘weird,’ wear that distinction as a badge of honor and be happy that your light is shining brightly in this ever-darkening world.” When the Lord was on the earth, He told His disciples, “If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you” (John 15: 18-19).

Satan has devised many ways of making us feel lonely and depressed; one avenue he uses is social media (which I like to call “anti-social media”). In a study published in the medical journal “Behavioral Brain Research,” researchers conducted MRI scans of 85 active Facebook users. Higher daily frequency of checking Facebook on the smartphone was robustly linked with smaller gray matter volumes of the nucleus accumbens. Nucleus accumbens are the pathways in the brain that activate during pleasurable experiences. Apparently, Facebook doesn’t make those little guys do much activating. This study says it’s not just that you feel bad, excessive social media use can, in effect, re-wire your brain in a bad way. There’s even a formula for it: for every 1% increase in the number of likes, status updates, and link clicks, happiness levels decreased by 5-8%. People using 5-7 or more social media platforms were three times more likely to be depressed and anxious, compared to those who used two or less” (5).

President Russell M. Nelson recently challenged us to disengage from a constant reliance on social media by participating in a seven-day social media fast. It’s almost as if he already knows all this information. Now he didn’t say it’s bad or don’t use it at all. He said, “Much of what appears in your various social media feeds is distorted, if not fake. So give yourselves a seven day break from fake” (6). We need people and people need us. I challenge you to see if lifting someone makes you happy. There is a Chinese saying that says: “If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help somebody” (7).