Beautiful Inside

Updated: Jun 5, 2020

“I’M BEAUTIFUL INSIDE!” I turned my head sharply and read these words boldly printed on top of a For Sale sign in front of a house.

I thought to myself, “I guess they think the inside of this house says more about what it’s worth than the outside!”

The real estate industry spends a lot of time and energy talking about “curb appeal” when selling or buying a home. Curb appeal describes the visual attractiveness of a house from the outside. If we were to describe “personal curb appeal,” we would be talking about the main focus of most of the beauty and fashion industries. Advertisements lure us to products based on the way they look or the way they will make us look on the outside.

I also fall into the trap of being way too focused on my personal curb appeal. I wake up in the morning filled with questions like, “What should I wear today that doesn’t make me look fat, too old or just plain drab? What should I have for breakfast that will help me keep my weight down? When will I have time to exercise so I can eat the cookies I want to make with my grandchildren? Does the make-up I bought yesterday make me look younger or older?” And the questions go on and on. I have to stop myself and remind myself God has created me in His image. That is the only image that really matters and it is beautiful.

Don’t get me wrong; personal attention to the way we look on the outside is important to our overall well-being. We need to be clean, groomed and put on our best smile. It’s when we focus so much on our curb appeal that we forget that the most important parts of who we are and our personal worth are on the inside!

I grew up in a home with a single mother and two sisters. Outward beauty was a constant topic! You might say it is ingrained in my DNA. I fight it often! But what I also learned from these three amazing women are inner traits that are becoming part of my DNA: traits like unconditional love for people.

Heidi, Mom-Marja, Rhonda and Wendy

Our home was full of friends, neighbors and those who had nowhere else to go. We laughed and cried together. We played and worked together. We listened and we loved! I learned from my family that to be able to love others freely is true beauty.

My mother helped me develop the inner trait of working hard for what you want. She raised three daughters on the meager wages of a waitress and relied on the generous pockets of those who tipped her for her service. She made every penny go as far as possible to provide for her children. Once we were grown, she went to school, where she became an esthetician. She finally had a job that she loved. She helped others with the outward and inward beauty they desired. She proved throughout her life that hard work, caring for others, and following our dreams reveals our inner beauty.

I have two of the strongest sisters I know. They’ve both faced very heavy and life-altering challenges.